The Abandonment Wound: Why It Runs So Deep and How to Begin Healing
Few wounds cut as deeply as the abandonment wound. It often begins in childhood, a moment when our small, tender self felt unseen, unheard, or left behind. Whether it came through an absent parent, emotional neglect, divorce, bullying, or even subtle disconnection, the wound of abandonment can shape how we relate to love, safety, and belonging for the rest of our lives.
How the Abandonment Wound Shows Up Now
Even if you don’t consciously remember the original moments of abandonment, the patterns echo into adulthood:
Fear of being left, betrayed, or replaced
Over-giving in relationships to “earn” love
Staying small or silent so you won’t be rejected
Deep loneliness, even when surrounded by people
Struggles with boundaries or co-dependency
Attracting partners, friends, or workplaces where you feel unseen or unvalued
A constant hum of anxiety that the rug will be pulled out from under you
Why It’s So Hard to Heal Alone
The abandonment wound isn’t just “in your head.” It imprints in your body, nervous system, and energy field. It can carry through your ancestral lineage and even past lives. Many of us unconsciously replay it again and again- in love, friendships, or even our spiritual path..without realising why.
Steps Toward Healing the Abandonment Wound
Healing this wound doesn’t mean it never happened. It means reparenting the part of you that still believes you are unworthy of love or belonging.
Here are some powerful starting points:
Somatic Awareness – Begin noticing where abandonment sits in your body. Is it a tight chest, a hollow belly, or restless anxiety? Gently name the sensations without judgment.
Reparenting Dialogue – Speak to your inner child as the loving parent you may not have had. Try: “I will never leave you. You are safe with me. You are worthy of love, always.”
Release False Programs – Many abandonment wounds are held in energetic seals, contracts, and implants that keep the wound looping. Clearing these helps your soul come back online.
Practice Receiving – Allow small, safe moments of love, care, or support from others — without giving anything in return. This retrains your nervous system to believe you are worthy of receiving.
Why This Matters Right Now
Collectively, many of us are being asked to face our deepest wounds so we can step into sovereignty and soul liberation. The abandonment wound is one of the most common-and one of the most important to heal if we want to stop looping in fear, scarcity, and survival patterns.
A Pathway of Support
If this resonates deeply with you, know that you don’t have to unravel it alone.
Free Gift: I’ve created a powerful Meet Your Inner Child healing to begin this journey. It will help you reconnect with the part of you still carrying the abandonment wound and begin to offer her the love and safety she deserves. Access the free healing here
Go Deeper: Inside Soul Temple, we’ve just opened a brand-new series dedicated to healing childhood wounds-beginning with the abandonment wound. These sessions include teachings, multidimensional healings, Quantum EFT practices, and daily integration tools to help you move from fear of being left behind into deep trust, wholeness, and reconnection to God and your soul self. Learn more about Soul Temple
✨ You are not broken. You were never meant to live in fear of being left behind. Healing the abandonment wound is not just about finding peace-it’s about reclaiming your power, your truth, and your ability to fully live and love.